Intimacy refers to the how much
The
Plenty of Fish -
Relationship Chemistry Test measures five broad dimensions of
personality that are each essential for building a romantic
relationship. It’s not the case that a person must be “high” on each of
the personality characteristics to be in a relationship. Instead, what
is important is how your personality interacts with the personality of
your romantic partner on each dimension. Or what is commonly called
“chemistry.” Based on decades of empirical research in psychology, the
POFCT captures the five key ingredients that can determine whether or
not two people have the “right” chemistry. |
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Self-Confidence
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Intimacy refers to the how much
Self-Confidence, or the
degree to which a person feels comfortable with him or herself. People
that are high in self-confidence tend to be assertive and competent in
both their private and public relationships. People that are low in
self-confidence tend to be reticent and somewhat anxious. |
As someone with high
self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other
people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and
enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanour in groups makes people
around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking
about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you
as socially competent.
The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also
spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have
several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your
weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for
your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are
not embarrassed easily.
Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the
exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence
in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence
for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come
to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like
qualities. |
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Family Orientation
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Intimacy refers to the how much
Family Orientation, or the
degree to which a person supports and values the family. People that are
family oriented tend to want or already have children, are very close to
their immediate relatives, and prefer cooking at home to eating at a
restaurant. People that are not family oriented tend to be
individualistic, unconventional, and very much enjoy attending parties
and social functions. |
As someone who is oriented to
familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic
life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them
very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children,
you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference
for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the
transition into parenthood.
You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work
hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by
your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going
out to clubs and restaurants.
What really sets you apart from people that are low in family
orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work
well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a
family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down.
However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is
involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might
occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you
need to do. |
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Self-Control
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Intimacy refers to the how much
Self-Control, or the extent
to which a person exerts control over various aspects of life. People
that are high in self-control tend have strong emotional reactions to
things and try to regulate those feelings by micromanaging and attending
to specific details. People that are low in self-control are usually
relaxed, even-tempered, and lenient. |
The self-control personality
dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him
or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad.
Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give
in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this
likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances
where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where
it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or
say things that may be inappropriate.
As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find
that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get
yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work
on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely
to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying
focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such
tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to
recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more
detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage
your own stress level.
Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too
relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require
organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish
may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized
periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.”
Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and
never be thought of as boring. |
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Openness
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Intimacy refers to the how much
Openness, or the extent to
which a person is open to and dependent upon others. People that are
high in openness tend to like a wide range of things (e.g., food, music,
movies, etc.), in part because they are concerned with pleasing other
people. In contrast, people low in openness are very independent and
opinionated; they know what they like and aren’t apt to change their
opinion. |
As someone high in openness, you
have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. Indeed,
it’s likely that you are easily absorbed in music and art, as well as
natural phenomena. Another aspect of your openness is your emotional
insight; that is, you probably have good access to and awareness of your
own emotions.
Another aspect of the openness dimension is the tendency to think about
abstract concepts and ideas. This thinking style may take the form of
artistic and metaphorical use of language, and/or music composition or
performance. Thus, it is likely that, either in your work or spare time,
you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing.
Your tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages.
For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a
particular problem, your openness makes it easier for you to identify
new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that
are not as open as you are. In contrast, you may be bored easily in
situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such
cases, you might have difficulty excelling on projects that do not
provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking. |
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Easygoingness
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Intimacy refers to the how much
Easygoingness,
or a person’s work ethic and degree of mental flexibility. People that
are high in easygoingness are very relaxed, broadminded, and unaffected
by change. In contrast, people low in easygoingness tend be hardworking,
firm, and sometimes inflexible. |
Easygoingness refers to one's
ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to “take things as
they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in
easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of
ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete tasks
thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness
cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people
around you. Another potential problem with being too high in
easygoingness is that it can provide you with gratification in the
short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.
High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, may also
diminish your effectiveness at work, for example. You may find it
aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be
needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, your
colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused. |
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How does my personality affect my love life?
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Intimacy refers to the how much
With the strong degree of self-confidence that you
possess, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people.
Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable
interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For
this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not
initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your
romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over
time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially
frustrate your partner.
Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with
people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you
maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant
family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a
romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life.
Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and
staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s
likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be
easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting
relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and
desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to
your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at
one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or
club.
As someone who is more relaxed than most people, you likely get along
with most people quite well. Chances are that your friends and
colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humoured.
When it comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people.
However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship
with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might
perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling.
Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate
people that are different from you. However, when it comes to romantic
relationships, your openness might make it difficult for you to tolerate
people that cannot appreciate diversity as much as you. Therefore, you
may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share your
open-mindedness. But, your openness might occasionally cause a certain
degree of dependency on your end because you may be so open that you
easily adopt the preferences and habits of your partners and gradually
relinquish things that make you so unique. |
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